When Life Gets in the Way
I’ve met all kinds of clients over the years: some had diabetes or cancer, were morbidly obese or scrawny, had low self-esteem, were heartbroken, got injured practising their sport, others had hurt their back, had been into a road accident, had a propensity for inactivity, were workaholics, etc. But fear not! I’ve also seen people who considered they were living happy and relatively uneventful lives.
Nothing could be further from my intention than to establish a ranking that would determine which situations are harder than others. I would rather say that each situation brings its load of problems, and I would really like to convince you of this.
It might be obvious to some, but you should know that many of my clients thought (or still do) their situation was so complex and unique that no one could ever understand what they are going through. And guess what? They may be right. However, this approach is not constructive and can’t be used to justify inaction. During all the time you spend comparing and putting things into perspective, you are simply standing still.
I regularly hear sentences such as “let’s see how you do it”. And guess what? Once again, these people may be right; maybe if I had to deal with the same issues, I would not fare well. But even if this were true, it wouldn’t change anything.
I am not saying these words through lack of empathy, but to make you understand that the only objective of a trainer (and this should be true of anyone that means you well) is to make sure that you progress.
Of course, a friendly ear will always be welcome, but remember that if you want to lose weight, for example, you will inevitably have to use an action plan, of which you will at least execute the outlines. If your situation prevents you from meeting your objectives by your initial deadline, simply lower the bar or postpone the deadline, but avoid justifying yourself and wallowing in self-pity. Do everything that is humanly possible and you will be able to say mission accomplished.
The purpose of this lengthy preamble is to suggest that you find inspiring role models. They don’t necessarily need to have gone through the worst ordeals; a person can be inspiring through their ability to keep things simple. Whether it is by reading the biography of someone you like, or by looking in your close social circle, it doesn’t matter as long as this person gets you to remain active. You can even choose a character from a novel; even more unusual, you can choose yourself!
One thing is certain: through the history of mankind, some have had it worse than you, just as others had a better starting hand. But guess what again? The only thing that matters is what you decide to do about your situation, as unique as it may be.
By Xavier Jutras